Q & A with the Remarkable MisAdventure
In the past what fears kept you from being mindful of your life?
During my late teens early 20’s I had found it very difficult to be in alignment with myself and found anger had a strong grip on my daily life, thoughts, and actions. I had dropped out of college, was working full-time in a job which was unsociable and made me feel miserable while my personal life was in complete turmoil. I found myself in a vicious cycle of alcohol, disruption and the anger which had led me to become a person that was very detached from any purpose, love or happiness. I was riddled with anxiety, depression, and loneliness, finding it very difficult to embrace my days and therefore my life. I was on autopilot and it was destructive. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough, whether that was for another job, for a partner, for my parents and most importantly for myself. The fear of not being good enough would stop me from setting goals, having dreams and feeling a sense of accomplishment. I was afraid of what others thought of me, and most consequently I was afraid of failure. As such every day used to be a struggle to just make it through, understanding that we can live in abundance and the importance of mindfulness for inner harmony and external joy was less than a mere pipe dream.
Who inspired you to start the journey to reinvent yourself?
There came a moment when I was around 22/23 when I cracked and felt as though I had reached my own personal rock bottom. I had been fired from the job which made me miserable. I had to move back in with my parents, which brought more issues than ever imagined and I felt incredibly lonely as I had nobody to turn to or speak to. I decided enough was enough, and there was much more to life, and it was up to only myself whether I was going to live or continue to exist and let time fly by. I had a love for basketball, and Michael Jordan became a huge inspiration. In terms of dedication, focus, and self-responsibility. Playing basketball and studying the mindset of these athletes became a huge breakthrough for me. I also picked up my first book for over a decade, it was the ‘Chimp Paradox’ and this became a complete game changer for my thinking. I would go on to read a host of mindful books from ‘The Power of Now’ through to ‘Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance’. This started to bring me in balance and would change the course of my thinking and life forever. From here on I would model my thinking and behavior towards a more spiritual and conscious presence. Beginning to understand the power of positivity and just how we bring everything into our lives, and that everything in our lives is brought to help shape us on our journey. This impacted my behavior, from deciding to go back to education, find new jobs and promise myself that I will listen to my intuition, and not be afraid to make a decision.
What was the hardest lesson you had to learn during your process?
I think for me the hardest lessons have been patience, self-discipline and letting go. Patience has had to be present in every aspect and still is something I continue to work on. I realize that I have to take action today, a copious amount, and then have faith that it will work out. There will be failures along the way (there have been many) and it will be uncomfortable as the road is rocky and filled with obstacles. I feel confident that the dots will align and that everything will come together as long as I make good choices and put the work in. Self-discipline had always been a weakness and is now one of my most prized gifts. To achieve any goal, we are required to work towards it, and we know deep down if we are trying our best or not. From exercise to meditation to work, every aspect of my life is filled with good habits to become the best version of myself as possible. This gives me more freedom than I have ever had before. There have been some real rocky situations during my time in Asia, I have had my foot run over by a truck, been chased by a crocodile, found myself in prison for 3 weeks and run out of money due to difficult clients. It is during these moments I have to remember the lessons, keep mindful every day and let go of the immense amount of fear that my mind screams out at me. Living with gratitude for every situation, person and moment in life and understanding how it is shaping you as a person has allowed me to live with love, most importantly love for myself.
“I wanted to embrace the journey, the lessons that I had learned so far and lived a way of life which is uncomfortable and open to adventure.”
Why did you decide to travel and live as a Nomad?
I had always had the dream of seeing as much of the world as possible. I am fascinated by learning and I want to learn as much about as life as possible. I wanted to discover the differences and similarities between cultures and how we can work to bring more acceptance into our lives and remove invisible barriers. Initially, I worked in Europe during my university studies and traveled around a little picking up the travel bug. Once I graduated I was fortunate enough to land a good job in central London and was there for almost two years. However during this time my urge to leave kept growing stronger all the time. For, me there was more in the world to discover, more to experience, freedom to be had and a life I could live on my own terms. I wanted to embrace the journey, the lessons that I had learned so far and lived a way of life which is uncomfortable and open to adventure. I felt the only way to reach my dreams and full potential was to take the leap. In September 2017 I decided to leave my job, leave my place, leave London and bought a one-way ticket to Nepal. Since then I have been lucky enough to grow personally and professionally beyond my imagination, experience multiple beautiful adventures and visit 8 different countries throughout Asia.
What advice do you give to people who are living through others on social media and struggle with mindfulness or finding their journey?
I used to compare my life to others through social media and it would make me feel rotten inside. Why is everybody else living a better life? Why am I not living? Why do I not look as good? The thoughts were never-ending. This was taking me away from any mindful thinking and beliefs as I was trapped in egoic thoughts which would feed my insecurity. It is difficult to remove from social media as it is both present and the perfect escape from our reality and difficulties. Instead of trying to remove it from my life, I used it as a tool. I decided to control my feeds and ensure I am following only positive things and having a feed which would provide encouragement and support from various groups in similar situations. Comparing to others is dangerous, social media is a snapshot of somebody's life, and it is completely falsified, whether through multiple shots for the perfect picture or filters to change the picture. The truth is you are human and so is everybody else, the emotions, feeling, and thoughts you are going through, so do others. Once we remove from comparison to others into vulnerability with others, there is a strength and admiration that draws the right people and energy your way. My biggest piece of advice is to truly love yourself, the way you tick and the things you ‘don’t like’ about yourself, accept everything that makes you who you are. This sets a foundation of gratitude for all that is in your life. From here you can work on improving what you want to, with the mindset and patience it will take. Your mind is designed to keep you safe from danger, and your heart is seeking the journey, listen to your heart and bring your head with you.
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