A True Friend or Narcissist?
In 2019, be mindful of who is a true friend and who is simply using you to boost his or her ego. We all have someone in our life who feels their needs are more important than the rest of the world and often verbalize it or captures it on social media. This friendship can be an emotional roller coaster or a scene from a movie, and the suspense is what keeps you holding on. Our minds will play so many tricks on us, and often, we find ourselves making excuses as to why we keep a narcissist in our life.
The truly sad part about the entire friendship, it's based upon manipulation. A narcissist has the friendship figured out and has brainwashed his or her friend into believing they support you and care about you but they rarely or never show support or give equal nurturing to the friendship. In every relationship, we begin to examine our needs whether its as friends or an intimate relationship. We begin to see manipulative tactics and the time spent on being supportive and truly trying to meet the needs of a friendship. Often, we know if our efforts are in vain and if we feel the time is right or simply have had enough of a narcissistic behavior we will make an attempt to call a narcissist out on their actions.
And their performance begins with the soft sound of a violin playing in the background, and a look of dismay displayed across his or her face while they attempt to keep their anger at bay. You begin to hear a list ramble from their lips. This is not a grocery list but a list of subject matter so extreme that you become baffled and you lose your train of thought as to why you are having a discussion with your friend in the first place. As the curtain closes on their performance, we are apologizing to a narcissist and they are the victim. And this is how toxic friendships last for years.
The Mindful Journal posted an amazing eye-opening article about someone being a friend or a narcissist in any capacity of a relationship, whether it's an online friendship or in person. Take a moment to find out if your friendship is real. Read the full article by clicking here.