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Age Gap: Couples Share Real Stories with Insider

Age Gap: Couples Share Real Stories with Insider

Image Source: Dimitri de Vries

Image Source: Dimitri de Vries

Love...Love...Love! If you're lonely and want it you don't know how to keep it. If you're happy being single, it shows up on your doorstep and you rebuke it. Then there are the hopeless romantics. When a man or woman finds a person who meets their checklist within the dating world most often, the relationship dissolves and they can't wait to mentally star in a scene from a romantic movie all over again. The ups and downs in dating today may have to do with everybody being in the relationship with you. Magazines give advice as to what a relationship needs to sustain till death do you part, baggage from past relationships, social media influences, YouTube biased opinions, the amazing comment section - they have a Ph.D. in everything (Pretty Hateful Discussions), family, friends and whoever else wants to get in on it. A couple starts to hear everyone's voice in their head and analyzing all the information they have read or heard from someone they don't even know. Eventually, the couple becomes distant, insecurities creep in and the arguing begins because a friend or family member told them that he or she deserves more respect. A homewrecker is lurking in the bushes taking notes, comparisons from a past relationship start to play over and over till it's game over.

Love is a Better Teacher than Duty
— Albert Einstien

Why do people get so bent out of shape if two people are happy? Often, socio-cultures disapproval magnifies if a couple has an age gap of 6 years or more. It's similar to several years ago when interracial dating started to increase. If a person is black and they dated another race everyone was there to put their spin on it. But society approved someone of Asian descent and white, someone of Latin descent and white or any other culture other than black. They titled the couples from different cultural backgrounds and a white American interethnic instead of, interracial to give a significant distinction. Over the years, interracial couples went on with their lives and got through it. Like Ollie & Tay. Love is Love and it's nobody's business.

“same-sex couples…an age-gap is not a factor”

Most studies reveal couples who are involved in an age-gap relationship are much happier. In most cases, it’s because of trust and communication between the couple. There is a feeling of security. In my opinion, it boils down to both individuals are independent and self-aware of their needs and they want to make the relationship work. Age Difference couples have looked at the pros and cons that come with the relationship from a societal standpoint and reproduction, it's a conscious a decision they both make to be together. But social disapproval causes friction between a union. The biggest drawback for age gap couples is reproductive fitness. It is evolutionary for men to reproduce and they chose a woman based on their reproductive needs. Same-sex couples face the same dating challenges as heterosexual couples, but an age-gap is not a factor because reproductive fitness is not in a couples equation. I'm not saying same-sex couples do not want children. Same-Sex couples focus is on finding someone he or she can love and receive love in return. They want to make a true connection, have peace and happiness in their relationship. Insider interviewed 10 real couples with a significant age difference share how they make their relationship work. Click Insider to read how couples focus on each other and not socio-culture.

Age-Gap Studies:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/18700520/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/

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