Relationship Goals: This Guy Figured It Out
An honest and raw conversation with a man who changed his mindset to find happiness and true love.
It was a difficult process and a long journey with many ups and downs to get to where he is today. Believe me, I witnessed his struggles first hand and had my doubts if he would ever change. I also saw the good in him which let me know he had the potential to change if he could connect with the right woman who wanted to be in his life for all the right reasons.
He found her and they are truly a dynamic duo. His life and career changed drastically by adding the right piece to the puzzle. After, they became Mr. and Mrs. I ask him a few questions about his dramatic change in hopes of helping others who want to find true happiness. They have been going strong for several years and now, I have decided to share his story.
“It's easy but difficult as well. I think there is a combination of things and a major one thing with women and men they don't want to come to grips with it's a PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY. I think for me that was the number one reason for my transformation. I have ALWAYS wanted to be loved but for some reason, I didn't choose women that truly wanted to get to know or knew the real me. And when I did meet the right kind of woman I messed it up. My insecurities would always mess thing up for me, it was a fear that I wasn't good enough or deep down I felt there would be someone better...but truly its because I was scared to truly open myself up and try to be a better man for the right women.
“My beloved wife came after I have HURT WOMEN and had been HURT by women. “
My beloved wife came after I have HURT WOMEN and had been HURT by women. It was more ME FEELING I needed to make changes for ME. I wasn't in love with the man I grew to know and had become over the years. All the mistakes and pain I caused was REALLY SELF HATE. It seems the more I got to know me and figure out things about me the less I needed to prove my MANHOOD through womanizing behavior and I wasn't quite there when I met my now wife. I did put her through some Bullshit but she saw past the self-defeating behavior and also had enough insight to see I was a good man. We got to really know each other and just had fun together. I treated her with kindness and care when we were together. She taught me how to let my guard down and showed me she cared about me too. Now, don't get me wrong she let me know that she wasn't gonna take the bullshit and I could tell she laid it out and she walked the walk. She wasn't all talk but her action convinced me she was really who she said was and still portrays.
“I realized I was worth happiness and a good woman”
My wife made the first leap and it told me she was willing and I was in the hunt for a chance at real HAPPINESS. It took a lot of time and battles within myself but one day it clicked how lucky I was to have her in my life and what a wonderful woman she is to herself and others. I realized I was worth happiness and a good woman. I still to this day carry guilt for the failed relationships that I could have done so much better (she made me realize that), the guilt is from the lack of respect towards so many women from my past for not being the man I should have been to them and not setting a good example towards how to treat women for my son. I'm not saying it was all me but I could have done things with more maturity on my part. I am just speaking from my heart. Everything boils down to maturity. I think most men and woman forget how to appreciate and enjoy a person's company and work towards building something together. Instead of how can this person satisfy me. Anymore, people don't know how to let a relationship develop and in the process learn how to heal themselves. So many people are in love with themselves for all the wrong reasons and don't know their self-worth or how to have their own life and agenda. If people would just start being true to themselves and their feelings, the right man or woman will come to them.”
**Names are kept anonymous in this article for privacy**